Sometime ago, I had to staple some papers together but did it wrongly which I later realized. So I removed the pin, rearranged it and took it home to staple properly and that the right way. On getting home, I was about stapling it again but felt the need to reconfirm that it was properly arranged this time around to avoid a repeat of my earlier mistake. I confirmed and it was alright before I stapled it.
In your previous relationship, you might have made a horrible mistake and you've decided to get your act together and to go back to God (take it home) to make things right this time. Given this experience, though God might have spoken to you concerning a lady/brother, it wouldn't hurt dear friends to reconfirm your leading. Not because you doubt God but because you want to be double sure; you want to get it right this time before you tie the knot (staple it).
God help us as we take time out to be sure of our convictions. Remain Blessed!!!
Hmmn...what if double-sure isn't enough? Do you now confirm everyday, or every second? I understand your point though but you cant be 100% sure except you are "Ancient of Days". So its a faith-walk. God might not show you the whole thingy for many reasons.
ReplyDeleteWhilst, its not bad to seek for more confirmations, you must however be sure how God speaks to you and trust Him to lead you on this too. Its a once-a-lifetime decision and you cannot remove the 'staple'(bond) on this one.
Its one decision I dread so much but without stretching it too much, He only wants us to be sincere and trust Him wholeheartedly. There is no reason to fear.
Shalom!
Thanks for contributing. Yes it is a faith-walk as is our christian life. But note that He has offered to guide us into all truth and He's also said that the path of the just is like the sun that shines brighter and brighter. He has also offered to reveal deep secrets to us if we so desire.
DeleteHe won't tell us everything but He will tell us what we NEED to know.He wants us to be dependent on Him and ensure that we get what's needed for the journey ahead through what He's told us already. Confirming over and over isn't too much to ask.
Luvly one. But i want 2 ask for ur opinion abt ds double sure thing. What if ur partner doesnt want to wait any longer. Hes claimin he has his comfirmatn already not mindin d fact dt u av nt fully comfirmd. Also hes thinkin u dont want to b serious buh d truth is u r just bein extra careful. What do u do? Shd u just move ahead or sometin?
ReplyDeleteLuvly one. But i want 2 ask for ur opinion abt ds double sure thing. What if ur partner doesnt want to wait any longer. Hes claimin he has his comfirmatn already not mindin d fact dt u av nt fully comfirmd. Also hes thinkin u dont want to b serious buh d truth is u r just bein extra careful. What do u do? Shd u just move ahead or sometin?
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment!Okay, its a good thing he has a conviction of his own, however it will be the most appropriate thing that you have your own leadings and convictions before giving your word. You don't go into marriage hanging on a man's word/convictions but on God's word. This is important because in stormy periods, when the tough times kick in, you would have the boldness to go back to God since He led you into it in the first place. Its the promises and words that God gave you before and during your time with your partner that encourages you. Marriage is about two people not the words of one party but about what God is telling you both.Please be sure that your decision is backed up by God not pressure.
DeleteHowever, in a bid to be sure, ensure that you're serious(praying fervantly) about it so as not to keep an intending partner waiting for too long a time. Note also that partners who are indeed sure of their leadings are ready to wait except God bids them otherwise. That is why I suggest we get serious and get what God has to say on time but not moved by pressure. God help us in making the best of decisions. Remain Blessed!
All being said, I think the point here is SINCERITY and TRUST. A number of factors influence our decisions in life. It could be our past, upbringing, temperament, dealings with God, or whatever it is. While it's always good to be sure of what God is saying at a point in time, it's also not good to overdo it. A melancholic person, for instance, has perfectionist tendencies. So he wants to be sure and sure. A sanguine person might not be that hard. A lady who has seen firsthand what a TERRIBLE MARRIAGE looks like in his/her family would definitely want to be VERY SURE! When God has a message for us, He makes sure He makes it clear at that point in time. Just as Ayo said, God gives us what we need at a particular time! Even if it looks daisy at that time, that's probably what we need! For a reason best known to God! Have you ever wondered how Nebuchadnezzar identified "Jesus" as the Son of God in the furnace? It came by revelation! Have you also wondered how Peter recognized Elijah and Moses on the Mount of Transfiguration? It also came by revelation! Mark you, he hasn't seen these people before! Now, that's Rhema! If you check out Gideon, who wanted to be overly sure that God would go with him by putting out the fleece, you would discover that FEAR was at the bottom of it! Paul didn't need that much assurance when God spoke with Him. Even when Prophet Agabus advised him to the contrary because his life was in danger, he still went ahead. He just wanted to preach the gospel! We constantly need to seek God's guidance on matters and once we understand how God deals with us, we don't need to get too bogged down with "over-analysing" issues. God has promised, "I will guide you with My EYE!" I love that! He also says, He would give us a hope and a future! I love that, too! It's always good to be sure when making a decision as critical as marriage. In fact, someone says it accounts for 90% of your success in life! But then, we shouldn't get too wrapped up in what business people call, "the paralysis of analysis!" Thanks Ayo for being a blessing!!!
ReplyDeleteReally blessed and enlightened by your comment. Thanks and God bless!
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